Helping Childless Women
from Feeling ‘Less than’
to Thriving in Life
You Didn’t Choose This Path,
But You Can Choose What’s Next
Helping Childless
Women from
Feeling ‘Less than’
to Thriving in Life
You Didn’t Choose This Path,
But You Can Choose What’s Next
I SEE YOU
You're Here Because...
You've walked one of these two journeys.
You've walked one of these two journeys.
Life after Infertility
Treatments
The medical reality, failed treatments, or unexpected complications stood in the way of motherhood.
Never had the chance
to become a mother
Relationships, financial situation, political situation or a mix of them stood in the way of motherhood.
Two very different journeys with the same outcome. Childlessness.
You are NOT broken
You are NOT alone.
When you are here, it means you are tired of the never-ending loop of sadness and emotionally exhausted of the pain caused by other people’s insensitivity.
You are wondering if life will forever feel this way. Just coping.
That this is the life for a woman without children.
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story.
In fact, it can be the beginning of a life filled with purpose and joy.
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story, and you do get to live a life full of joy and fulfilment.
First, Understand What's Happening to You
Why do you feel this way? Will you ever feel like your old self again?
Grieving Motherhood
Emotionally Exhausted
Ashamed & Invisible
Shattered Dreams
You envisioned a future filled with cuddles, milestones, and unconditional love, only to watch that dream slip away.
Constant Triggers
Everyday moments—from TV ads to casual conversations—suddenly reopen hidden wounds.
Internalised Blame
Shame convinces you that your childlessness is a personal failure, trapping you in a cycle of guilt.
Invisible Motherhood
In your heart, you were already a mother—even if the world never saw it—making the loss even deeper.
Living on Guard
The world celebrates parenthood, forcing you to navigate a constant emotional minefield.
Isolated Suffering
The loneliness deepens when few truly understand or even notice the silent battle inside you.
Unspoken Grief
Letting go of the life you imagined demands time and compassion, yet the grief often goes unacknowledged.
Misunderstood Pain
Well-meaning comments like "Have you thought about adoption?" minimise the depth of your grief.
Loss of Future Self
It's not just missing children—it’s mourning the life you dreamed of, the version of you that never came to be.
Lingering Bitterness
Without processing the stages of grief, pain silently hardens into resentment, coloring future joy.
Fragile Sense of Self
Each reminder stirs self-doubt, leaving you to wonder if you’ll ever truly feel whole again.
Questioning Identity
With motherhood out of reach, you're left wondering, "Who am I now?" in a world that doesn't see your loss.
Childlessness is not the end of your story—it’s the beginning of a
journey to rediscovering your wholeness.
First, Understand
What's Happening to You
Why do you feel this way?
Will you ever feel like your old self again?
Grieving Motherhood
Shattered Dreams
You envisioned a future filled with cuddles, milestones, and unconditional love, only to watch that dream slip away.
Invisible Motherhood
In your heart, you were already a mother—even if the world never saw it—making the loss even deeper.
Unspoken Grief
Letting go of the life you imagined demands time and compassion, yet the grief often goes unacknowledged.
Lingering Bitterness
Without processing the stages of grief, pain silently hardens into resentment, coloring future joy.
Emotionally Exhausted
Constant Triggers
Everyday moments—from TV ads to casual conversations—suddenly reopen hidden wounds.
Living on Guard
The world celebrates parenthood, forcing you to navigate a constant emotional minefield.
Misunderstood Pain
Well-meaning comments like "Have you thought about adoption?" minimise the depth of your grief.
Fragile Sense of Self
Each reminder stirs self-doubt, leaving you to wonder if you’ll ever truly feel whole again.
Ashamed & Invisible
Internalised Blame
Shame convinces you that your childlessness is a personal failure, trapping you in a cycle of guilt.
Isolated Suffering
The loneliness deepens when few truly understand or even notice the silent battle inside you.
Loss of Future Self
It's not just missing children—it’s mourning the life you dreamed of, the version of you that never came to be.
Questioning Identity
With motherhood out of reach, you're left wondering, "Who am I now?" in a world that doesn't see your loss.
Childlessness is not the end of your story
—it’s the beginning of a journey to rediscovering your wholeness.
Reclaim the Life That’s Meant for You
You’re not broken—and your story isn’t over.
You are NOT broken
You are NOT alone.
Here’s what healing and thriving can look like.
Guiding You
Through Grief
Grief isn’t just sadness. It’s invisible. Misunderstood.
Too often, people expect you to "move on" — as if grief were a moment, not a lifelong shift.
Here, your grief is valid.
Together, we'll walk through the pain, the anger, the numbness, the guilt — and all the moments when it feels like the world moved on without you.
You'll learn how to honour your grief and make space for it — without letting it define you.
Triggers come out of nowhere.
Instead of spiralling, you’ll learn how to pause, breathe, and anchor yourself.
Together, we'll create tools that fit you — so you're no longer at the mercy of old wounds.
This is about reclaiming your strength.
Next time something hits, you’ll know exactly what to do — not just to survive, but to move through it with power and self-compassion. You'll meet triggers as moments of healing and growth.
Building Emotional Resilience
Embracing Your New Journey
There comes a moment when you realise...
"I can't keep waiting for the life I imagined"
And in that moment, something opens: possibility, freedom — maybe even excitement.
Together, we’ll explore who you are beyond the roles you grieved. We’ll rediscover what lights you up, what matters most, and what kind of future you want to create — on your terms.
This isn’t about "letting go." It’s about stepping forward — with clarity, courage, and a quiet pride in all you've survived.
You don't need fixing. You need space to feel, tools to grow, and someone who gets it.
That’s what this journey is. That’s what I’m here for.
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story, and you do get to live a life full of joy and fulfilment.
Reclaim the Life
That’s Meant for You
You’re not broken
—and your story isn’t over.
You are NOT broken
You are NOT alone.
Here’s what healing and thriving can look like.
Guiding You Through Grief
Grief isn’t just sadness. It’s invisible. Misunderstood.
Too often, people expect you to "move on" — as if grief were a moment, not a lifelong shift.
Here, your grief is valid.
Together, we'll walk through the pain, the anger, the numbness, the guilt — and all the moments when it feels like the world moved on without you.
You'll learn how to honour your grief and make space for it — without letting it define you.
Building Emotional Resilience
Triggers come out of nowhere.
Instead of spiralling, you’ll learn how to pause, breathe, and anchor yourself.
Together, we'll create tools that fit you — so you're no longer at the mercy of old wounds.
This is about reclaiming your strength.
Next time something hits, you’ll know exactly what to do — not just to survive, but to move through it with power and self-compassion. You'll meet triggers as moments of healing and growth.
Embracing Your New Journey
There comes a moment when you realise...
"I can't keep waiting for the life I imagined"
And in that moment, something opens: possibility, freedom — maybe even excitement.
Together, we’ll explore who you are beyond the roles you grieved. We’ll rediscover what lights you up, what matters most, and what kind of future you want to create — on your terms.
This isn’t about "letting go." It’s about stepping forward — with clarity, courage, and a quiet pride in all you've survived.
You don't need fixing. You need space to feel, tools to grow, and someone who gets it.
That’s what this journey is.
That’s what I’m here for.
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story, and you do get to live a life full of joy and fulfilment.
ABOUT ME
Hey, I'm Jolanda!
I’m childless, not by choice.
I know about the pressure of ‘having to make a choice’ and I know ‘when there is no choice
I learned about living aligned with my values, my identity, and I learned to be unapologetic about who I am and about what fulfilment means to me.
...and I want the same for you!
As an Accredited Coach I'm dedicated to helping childless women move beyond pain, shame, and societal expectations to create lives filled with confidence, clarity, and fulfilment.
ABOUT ME
Hey, I'm Jolanda!
I’m childless, not by choice.
I know about the pressure of ‘having to make a choice’ and I know ‘when there is no choice
I learned about living aligned with my values, my identity, and I learned to be unapologetic about who I am and about what fulfilment means to me.
...and I want the same for you!
As an Accredited Coach I'm dedicated to helping childless women move beyond pain, shame, and societal expectations to create lives filled with confidence, clarity, and fulfilment.
MY JOURNEY
I've Walked This Path Too
Like you, I’ve faced the heartbreak and challenges of a childless journey. Here’s how I found my way to peace and confidence:
Feeling ashamed and silenced, to...
embracing my story and speaking with confidence.
Seeking constant validation, to...
standing strong in my own worthiness.
Emotional exhaustion, to...
setting boundaries that protect my peace.
Fearing social situations, to...
navigating triggers with calm and confidence.
Create a life filled with confidence, clarity, and purpose.
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story, and you do get to live a life full of joy and fulfilment.
MY JOURNEY
I've Walked This Path Too
Like you, I’ve faced the heartbreak and challenges of a childless journey. Here’s how I found my way to peace and confidence:
Feeling ashamed and silenced, to...
embracing my story and speaking with confidence.
Seeking constant validation, to...
standing strong in my own worthiness.
Emotional exhaustion, to...
setting boundaries that protect my peace.
Fearing social situations, to...
navigating triggers with calm and confidence.
Create a life filled with confidence, clarity, and purpose.
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story, and you do get to live a life full of joy and fulfilment.
Your Journey - My Approach
Whether you’re seeking free resources, a supportive community
or transformative coaching - there's a space here for you!
Free Resources
& Community
Don't feel quite ready for coaching just yet?
Ad-hoc 1:1 Coaching
Need help navigating a specific challenge?
1:1 Coaching Program
Ready to step into real transformation?
Dive into a growing library of free tools and a free community created to help you feel less alone and more equipped.
Access practical guides, emotional support tools, and mindset shifts at your own pace.
Get help navigating grief, emotional triggers, and moments of self-doubt.
Join a compassionate space that encourages growth, reflection, and connection.
Start building confidence and clarity, one small, supported step at a time.
Helps create a strong foundation rooted in empathy, empowerment, and self-discovery.
These one-off coaching sessions are designed for clarity when you need it most—no commitment, just impact.
Work through emotional overwhelm, tough decisions, or stuck patterns.
Get immediate tools and perspective shifts to help you move forward.
Challenge limiting beliefs and reconnect with your own definition of fulfilment.
Walk away with simple, practical strategies to feel more grounded and in control.
Perfect for when you're navigating a challenge and want fast, focused guidance with real results.
This 12-week coaching journey is designed to help you reconnect with who you are beyond motherhood and build a life that feels deeply fulfilling.
A powerful deep-dive session to uncover your core identity.
Weekly personalised coaching calls focused on your real-life challenges.
Tools to rewrite your story, build lasting confidence, and align with your values.
Ongoing support to stay accountable, consistent, and empowered.
Rooted in Dialectical Behaviour Coaching, mindfulness, and behavioural strategies, this program gives you the structure and support to live with purpose, clarity, and self-trust.
Wherever you are on your journey, there’s a path forward
—and support to help you take the next step.
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story, and
you do get to live a life full of joy and fulfilment.
Your Journey
- My Approach
Whether you’re seeking free resources, a supportive community or transformative coaching
- there's a space here for you!
Free Resources & Community
Don't feel quite ready for coaching just yet?
Dive into a growing library of free tools and a free community created to help you feel less alone and more equipped.
Access practical guides, emotional support tools, and mindset shifts at your own pace.
Get help navigating grief, emotional triggers, and moments of self-doubt.
Join a compassionate space that encourages growth, reflection, and connection.
Start building confidence and clarity, one small, supported step at a time.
Helps create a strong foundation rooted in empathy, empowerment, and self-discovery.
Ad-hoc 1:1 Coaching
Need help navigating a specific challenge?
These one-off coaching sessions are designed for clarity when you need it most—no commitment, just impact.
Work through emotional overwhelm, tough decisions, or stuck patterns.
Get immediate tools and perspective shifts to help you move forward.
Challenge limiting beliefs and reconnect with your own definition of fulfilment.
Walk away with simple, practical strategies to feel more grounded and in control.
Perfect for when you're navigating a challenge and want fast, focused guidance with real results.
1:1 Coaching Program
Ready to step into real transformation?
This 12-week coaching journey is designed to help you reconnect with who you are beyond motherhood and build a life that feels deeply fulfilling.
A powerful deep-dive session to uncover your core identity.
Weekly personalised coaching calls focused on your real-life challenges.
Tools to rewrite your story, build lasting confidence, and align with your values.
Ongoing support to stay accountable, consistent, and empowered.
Rooted in Dialectical Behaviour Coaching, mindfulness, and behavioural strategies, this program gives you the structure and support to live with purpose, clarity, and self-trust.
Wherever you are on your journey, there’s a path forward—and
support to help you take the next step
I’m here to tell you the Childlessness is not the end of your story, and you do get to live a life full of joy and fulfilment.
TESTIMONIALS
What Others Are Saying
"...I now understand myself
so much more"
"Just wanted to write that I never saw myself as a person who would reach out to a therapist or a coach, but then I came across you and it felt normal. Like talking to a non-judgemental friend. I was so stuck in a hamster-wheel with my thoughts and emotions, and I just didn't see a way forward. Trying to picture myself with children and at the same time, even thinking about it was totally crazy because nothing in my life was ready for children. You have helped me break through the cycle in which I was stuck.
I now understand myself so much more, and feel less overwhelmed with what feels like 'do or die' life decisions. I'm looking forward to the next session. Thank you!
"...helped me to miniaturise
the struggles I had"
"I loved being coached by Jolanda, she is an incredible coach. She helped me point out what were my main issues even tho I was really confused when I came to her and didn't know why I had these feelings creeping up on me, she took her time to dig deep into the main issues that I had and laid them out on the table so we could take them one at a time. Her friendly and understanding approach put me at ease and helped me to miniaturise the struggles I had.
I am very grateful for her work and I couldn't recommend her more to anyone."
"...the best thing that happened
to me this year so far"
"Jolanda, you are the best thing that happened to me this year so far. I can't thank you enough for your time, your kindness and your wisdom. What you are giving me is priceless, really. You feel like a friend
I can't recommend you enough and I will be you number one fan, because everyone deserves to have a coach like you. Thank YOU!"
"...absolutely amazing coaching
session with Jolanda"
"I had an absolutely amazing coaching session with Jolanda. Not only did she help me address a sensitive topic, but she allowed a comfortable and caring space to help me realise my thought patterns, which were actually affecting other areas. She is incredibly observant and attentive in the way she analyses your situation and her coaching.
I would have no hesitation in recommending her and look forward to further coaching."
LET ME GUIDE YOU
Start Your New Journey
...with a FREE Discovery Call
During this 1-2-1 call via zoom, we'll take a deep dive into anything that you experience as a childless woman.
You'll walk away with tools, tips, and the next steps to confidently navigate social situations and show up for yourself with clarity and self-assurance.
STILL NOT SURE?
Frequently Asked Questions
What makes you the right coach for this journey?
I’m a professionally trained and certified coach with a deep understanding of emotional wellbeing, behavioural strategies, and mindset work. But beyond the qualifications, I’ve personally walked the path of involuntary childlessness. I know what it’s like to feel lost in grief, identity, and societal expectations—and I’ve done the work to rebuild a life of meaning and self-trust. If you're wondering whether we’d be a good fit, let’s connect.
Book a FREE Discovery Call so we can talk about where you are and how I can support you.
Is this coaching only for women who are childless not by choice?
Yes — Thriving Without Kids is designed specifically for women who are involuntarily childless. Whether you’ve faced infertility, health challenges, or life simply didn’t unfold the way you hoped, this space is for you. I support women navigating the grief, identity shifts, and emotional complexity that often come with childlessness not by choice. If that’s your story, you’re in the right place.
Book a FREE Discovery Call so we can explore what support looks like for you.
What types of challenges can coaching help with?
From emotional overwhelm and self-doubt to grief, identity shifts, and boundary-setting—coaching supports you in gaining clarity, confidence, and control. Not sure if your challenge is the “right kind”?
Let’s explore it together on a FREE Discovery Call.
What’s the difference between the 12-week coaching program and ad-hoc sessions?
The 12-week program is a transformational deep-dive with weekly support, accountability, and lasting change. Ad-hoc sessions offer flexible, one-off support for specific challenges or moments of overwhelm.
If you're unsure which fits your needs, book a FREE Discovery Call to find your best path forward.
I’m not sure I have time for a full program—what are my options?
That’s completely understandable. Many clients begin with ad-hoc sessions or explore the free resources until they’re ready for something deeper. You’re in charge of the pace.
Let’s figure out what’s realistic for you right now—book a FREE Discovery Call to talk it through.
I’ve tried therapy before—how is this different?
Coaching is forward-focused and action-oriented. While therapy may explore your past, coaching gives you tools to create meaningful change in your present and future.
Not sure what you need most right now? Let’s explore it in a FREE Discovery Call.
What’s included in the free resources and community?
You’ll find practical tools, guided reflections, emotional support strategies, and a space to feel seen and heard—available at your own pace. It’s a great way to start your journey.
And when you’re ready, book a FREE Discovery Call to explore what’s next.
What makes your coaching approach different?
My method blends Dialectical Behaviour Coaching, behavioural strategies, and mindfulness practices—backed by training and shaped by lived experience. It's practical, compassionate, and deeply empowering.
If that sounds aligned with what you're looking for, let’s chat. Book a FREE Discovery Call to learn more.
Emotional Healing & Clarity
Move beyond grief and self-doubt with expert guidance.
Confidence & Empowerment
Redefine your identity and build a fulfilling life on your own terms.
Supportive Community
Connect with like-minded women who truly understand your journey.
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All Rights Reserved.